We have a laid back lifestyle, balancing downtime and planned activities. During the week, we spend most of our time at home. After Alexander finishes work, we eat dinner and then usually watch shows together. We make a point to eat with our family next door with our nephew once a week, usually on Friday, alternating which house we go to. On a slower weekend, we'll spend most of our time working on house projects or our individual hobbies, also hanging out with family when everyone is free. We will often take one of the days to get out of the house and go visit parks and take walks, find a new place to take photos, and/or try new restaurants. On a faster weekend we'll travel farther and go to a theme park, baseball/hockey games, watch live music, take a 2-3 day trip, or have friends or family visiting.

We make a point to take a longer vacation 1-2 times a year, where one of those times involves travel either to another state within the United States or internationally.

We like to have things going on, but we spread them out and enjoy the downtime in-between!

Alexander About Alexandra

Alexandra is one of the most caring, creative, funny, and generous people I know. She gets a lot of satisfaction and energy creating things for the people around her. She has mended clothing for family and friends, created crowns and decorations for children’s parties, sewed old t-shirts into quilts for the people she cares about, and has put together multiple care packages for friends and family that were expecting children. She has always been there for me and her friends though the hard times, in addition to the good times. She is patient, nurturing, always willing to lend an ear. She is really an amazing friend and I admire her for it.

Alexandra About Alexander

Alexander is one of the kindest, loving, dependable and smartest people I have ever met. His kind and loving nature was one of the first things I ever noticed about him. It would radiate from him as you talked to him, especially when we would talk about science fiction! He is so extremely easy to talk to even when discussing the harder things in life, I don’t believe I’ve ever heard him even raise his voice! He is incredibly dependable and takes care of me and our family so well. I am also in awe of how smart he is. It is clear he was exceptionally intelligent from a young age and it has lead him to be successful in life. He is equally as empathetic as he is clever. I’m always so proud and impressed by him.

The fact that both of us have lived in and experienced so many different countries and cultures makes us a unique family. Alexander’s experience as a teenager in China was a valuable formative experience. Growing up in the UK and Ireland helps Alexandra bring a different cultural perspective to life. Working and living in China and Hong Kong led to life experiences for both of us that never would have happened otherwise. Living in a culture different to your own deepens your understanding of humanity as a whole and breeds empathy and respect for our fellow world citizens. We cannot wait to share this knowledge and love with our children and hope they too can join in that experience. We will encourage them to travel just as we did in the hopes that they too can deepen their love and respect of our world.

Our family is quite unique and live all over the world on many continents. Alexandra is from Northern Ireland where her mother, Phyllis, and father, Billy, still live. Billy also lives part of the year in Hong Kong. Alexandra’s brother, Will, lives in Poland and Spain along with his wife Kasia and their cat.

Alexander’s family live closer with his father, Mark, and stepmother, Shirley, living only 10 minutes away. Alexander’s sister, Monique, and her husband, Branden, live next door! We are so lucky to have them close by and are incredibly grateful we get to watch our little nephew grow up! Alexander's mother, Jolyn, and stepmother, Mel, live in Washington state where we visit at least once a year.

We're incredibly happy we get to live near family after living all over the world for the past 14 years of our relationship. Living next door to Monique and Branden has been amazing and our nephew considers our home an extension of his. He regularly tries to open our front door to come see our cats! We also have started a tradition of Friday night dinners! Farmer's Markets and street fairs are regular events we go to as a family and we love to hang out at the local brewery and just talk and enjoy each other's company. All of our families are incredibly enthusiastic about the adoption and ask questions about our process all the time. They are so thrilled and excited to spoil their new grandchild/niece/nephew!

This year we moved to Southern California after living in the Bay Area for 10 years. The main reason for the move was the incredible opportunity to live next door to Alexander's sister and brother-in-law. The gated community we live in is not huge but has a children's playground and fenced pool available for everyone to use. We see children in the pool daily after they return from school!

Our house has a spacious backyard where the child will be able to play safely and during chilly nights make s'mores over our fire pit. Inside our house we have 3 bedrooms, one of which will become the child's nursery, and a large kitchen/dining/living room where we spend most of our days together. There is plenty of room to play indoors, outdoors, and even outside in the community areas!

Every year the community decorates their houses for the holidays and all the neighborhood children trick or treat. We love to decorate our house and can't wait to be able to share this experience with the child! We are most excited to be able to have the child grow up right next door to their cousin and learn alongside them. We consider ourselves fortunate to have a support system so close by and we know our child will be so loved and protected.

First, thank you for reading our profile. We are so grateful and honored that you are considering us to be adoptive parents of a child. We know that this is not an easy process. We would like to share more about us to help you with your decision.

As you may have noticed, we both share the same name, Alex. This is actually how we met! Mutual friends introduced us to each other at a birthday party and we quickly found out how much we had in common besides our names. We have been together for 14 years and married for 11 years. We are very close and supportive of each other, and intend to take on parenting together as equals. The two of us are very self aware and we always solve problems together. We love each other so much and are very proud of our relationship. If we were to be stuck on an island, each of us wouldn’t choose anyone else to have by our side.

We want to be adoptive parents because we have so much love that we want to share and give to a child. We feel very fortunate to have been raised in such supportive families, and we want to pay this forward and raise a child in a similar environment. We do not know what the future holds, but we hope that they will have the opportunities that we’ve been lucky to experience ourselves.

We are a very multicultural and international family. The two of us have grown up and lived in several different countries, and we have family spread across the world in Hong Kong, Northern Ireland, Poland, Trinidad, Canada, and across the United States. They will all be thrilled to have another child to love, support, and share their corner of the world with. The child will have a cousin right next door in the same cul-de-sac, and more in the extended family in the same city. All of them will grow up together.

Our priority will always be the health and wellness of the child. We understand that pursuing adoption for them is one of the hardest decisions one can make as a birth parent but also is one of the biggest acts of kindness and love that one can do. We will never take that for granted and believe that open adoption is the best for all of us. We want to embrace the child for who they are, and you are a big part of that. Their birth parents and background should not be a mystery or a surprise. We are open to communicating via email, telephone, and visits in the future. We are committed to sending you letters and pictures through the years. It is very important to us that you know much they are loved and cared for.

Thank you for reading this letter. We can’t imagine what it is like to read through so many of them. If not this one, we truly hope that you find one that speaks to you. We wish you the best as you navigate making the best choices for yourself and the child.

Sincerely,

Alexander & Alexandra